Posted by paxvox on July 12, 2002, at 21:43:23
In reply to My therapist is leaving..., posted by Cheryl H. on July 12, 2002, at 19:41:18
My, but that IS a multi-layered situation. Ever seen the movie "Shrek"? Well, let's just say this situation seems very onion-like.
Issue 1: You are losing your therapist. That is a major problem, especially if he was the prescriber of your meds. I recently lost my GP of 9 years whom I had an EXCELLENT relationship with. I can NEVER replace that. With Pdocs, finding a new one is even more difficult, unless you are in a larger metro area. Where I live, there are really only about three practices (35,000 population too!!).
Issue 2: Sounds to me as if there are no "ifs"...you ARE in love with him. Losing that, even if it was unrequited, can also be very painful. Sorry, no easy answer for that one.
Issue 3: If you want to persue the Masters FOR YOU, then do it. If it was some roundabout way of fulfilling your romantic ideations about a relationship with your therapist,then WHY?
Summation: It is not unusual to find a Pdoc or other doc or therapist with whom you share such private thoughts and emotions w/o investing personal feelings of some sort. Unfortunately, it has been well documented that many therapists have taken advantage of that emotional lability for their own sexual predation. Some are still in jail, many more SHOULD be.....but that's another post. Find another therapist (maybe you should consider a same-sex therapist), talk out THESE feelings and issues. Give your professional thoughts a "cooling off" period, then procede with what you WANT to do.
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