Posted by oona on June 16, 2002, at 11:16:09
In reply to Anyone else resent depressed parent?, posted by InsomniaMom on June 15, 2002, at 23:09:48
Yes, can relate.
Except we were glad when my mom was just depressed. She would just read and go to church. It was when she went into one of her manic moods that all hell broke loose. She would scramble every thing up in her apartment till you could not find "anything" what a mess. She would hock stuff to get money which she did not need and then give the money away. She would make friends with people that would take advantage of her. She would stop taking her pills and her thyroid would go crazy. This was recently till she ended up walking behind a car in parking lot and getting knocked down so hard ended up in hospital. The social workers in hospital would not let her go back to her living conditions because they were unsafe. None of us kids could take care of her for different reasons, one was our own sanity. So we desolved her accounts (she did not have much but can only have $2000.00 if on medicaid and part went to her funeral preparations and part went to dentist and part went to account my brother has for any emergencys) and she is now in a nursing home on medicaid. They control her meds and for once in her life she is living normally, (physically and mentally) She hated it for the first month but now she likes it and it gives her some security. She does not have to make any life decisions there, just if she wants to go to an activity or to the casino. Anyway, we are REALLY glad that she is there. I did not go into the bad stuff she put all of us through because this would have been an endless posting..Just want to say, "hang in there". Talk to the social workers and doctors at the hospital. Maybe (dont know her age or situation) they can find an alternate living situation for her where she is livig with someone that is not her family or assisted living or ???..) Just make it clear that you have your own issues and your own life. Don't let her control yours. It is part of the game they play
Good luck,
oona
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