Posted by wendy b. on June 11, 2002, at 19:46:01
In reply to Re: Physical pain exacerbating emotional pain » wendy b., posted by judy1 on June 11, 2002, at 15:53:50
Hi Judy and others kind enough to write,
The case is against my former employer for wrongful termination; they did this after I came back from a two-month disability leave, went straight for the jugular. My boss and other employees (at her bidding) did everything possible to make life miserable when I returned, and I was already an anxious, depressd mess. This was two years ago already, that's how slowly these cases move through court.
The shrink had two months to write up the report. By the time we wrenched it out of her, we were already in trouble with the court because it was so late. The when we got it, it was barely useable. So the lawyer had to appear *the next morning* with the document before a federal magistrate, who was already going to chew him out because of the lateness. He told me we looked unprofessional and stupid because of her.
Someone asked if she could just do it over... The problem with having her re-do it is that, if she does that, and we submit a second one, to the court and to the other side, when (if?) we get in front of a jury, the other side will look at the two reports and ask her if she had been coached by my lawyer for specific types of answers, on the stand she'd have to say yes to a question like that. See what I mean? I asked this same question of the lawyer, and he's a whiz at cases like these (has argued over 300 federal cases). My feeling is that we'd maybe be able to ask her for an addendum, or an ammended report.
The only thing I can think, if I am gracious, is that she had absolutely no idea how important this was... I was so angry last week, now I am just sad, because I am afraid we just lost it. How can I talk to her about this? What can I say? This thing is now getting in the middle of our relationship, something I'm sure she never wanted, I certainly didn't. But why did she say yes, she'd write it, if she couldn't do it on time or correctly?
The lawyer doesn't want to alienate her now, since she is the expert witness we picked in the first place (on my recommendation, and at her agreement). If we SWITCH expert witnesses, it just looks like we didn't get the answers we wanted from the first one, if you see what I mean.
Thank you all for the suggestions, I am wondering what to do now. I cancelled group and individual sessions this week because of the 'rrhoids. Good excuse, I didn't want to even look at her, thought I would break down and appear weak, and I absolutely hate that... I don't want to cry, just want to scream at her.
Thanks again, to all,
Wendy
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