Posted by Manda on May 13, 2002, at 13:29:57
In reply to Re: Hope this isn't inappropriate--(wince)more on sex! » Krazy Kat, posted by NancyLee on May 13, 2002, at 13:03:28
Roo,
Wow. I completely understand. Although you definitely have more experience than I do... ;) I've been depressed since I was in middle school and was never interested in sex really. As a result, I'm now 21 and have very, very little experience. Consequently, any kind of physical intimacy is terrifying to me. (Of course, I also have major problems with performance anxiety due to GAD as well. I'm just a stressed out person in general. :) However, I think my lack of experience certainly makes it harder.) Do you think that you might be in a similar position?Ok, well, this is kind of embarrassing... My boyfriend and I have been together since September. I think he has even worse performance anxiety than I do (probably b/c he's also been depressed and has zero experience with physical intimacy). Both of us get so freaked out with even the suggestion of anything physical. We're attracted to each other, but performance anxiety has us paralyzed. Consequently, although we are very physically affectionate (as in cuddling, etc.), we still haven't even kissed. It's really sad. I think a lot of it, though, has to do with the fact that I've been a complete nutcase for the last six months or so, and he doesn't want to push me, etc. When I'm depressed, I don't want anything to do with any kind of physical intimacy, and I think he knows that. Anyway, this is a very random, very long response... Hope that the beginning, at least, was a little helpful (or knowing that another couple is even more messed up than you ;) ).
-Manda
P.S. Don't worry about posting about sex! It's definitely one of the problems that comes with depression, so it's certainly something that a lot of us can comment on. Besides, it's not as embarrassing b/c we don't actually know each other "in real life." :)
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