Posted by KB on March 23, 2002, at 9:30:14
In reply to Re: Lying Rach, posted by Phil on March 22, 2002, at 20:17:20
I used to lie a lot when I was younger - I think it started as a way of protecting myself from my mother and then became a habit to avoid facing potentially unpleasant things.
Now I generaly opt for silence -if I'm late for work, I just walk in confidently, sit down and sstart to work without making a big deal of it or saying anything. Of course this strategy only works if nobody directly asks you.
As far as lying about your depression, I think that's a little different - you have an absolute right not to share such personal information with everyone - I think minor lying in this area as in "how are you?" "I'm fine" when you're not is more of a social convention than a lie. In more meaningful situations you can tell people that you don't want to talk about it. you can also practice the art of distraction - if you get the person talking about themselves before they have a chance to ask you anything, they often forget.
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