Posted by trouble on February 18, 2002, at 7:35:58
In reply to Re: Anyone with transferance/counter-tran experien, posted by Anna Laura on February 18, 2002, at 3:57:12
> Take a look at this:
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> http://www.therapy-abuse.net/what_is_abuse.htmGod I hate being a woman right now. I want to apologize for the pussy-fication of these times, and say that not all of us agree w/ womans ways of knowing, some of us have been damaged by feminist scholarship and that website up there, if I was a man, I'd beat the sh*t out of it. 'Course it's not saying anything AGAINST men, we live in an age of prejudicial subtlety, these women have learned their lessons about that sort of thing. And they ARE known feminists, though I don't see any acknowledgement of their theoretical underpinnings on the website. I hate that.
And yet, the book-burning mentality shows through somehow. Carrie Nation battle-ax ham-fisted rhetoricians w/ their self-appointed advocacy of "victims". I put the growing cultural disdain toward victimhood per se at their pedicured and bluestockinged feet.
I can't find anything on this website that can't be destroyed, I mean, under VERAL ABUSE
"WITHHOLDING information and not listening empathetically-"
I can't go on my circuits are blown already-
How is not saying something verbal?
How is it abuse?
Not listening? As in HUH?
Empathetically, god help me, it's not a word, it just isn't, I'm sorry, not among educated peoples.Try another one:
"Controlling the client by withholding information about her, ostentatiously taking notes and refusing to show them to her."
1. Definition of Control facile beyond belief. Control is coercion, force, absence of freedom, etc. Control as used here sounds to me like a woman's way of knowing too many soap opera characters by name. Gothic.
2. Infantilization of client. Counter-therapeutic.
3. Assumes shrink's objectivity is superior to the patient's subjectivity. That authoritative "Information about her" he is withholding.
The Cad.
Which rhymes w/ Dad. Ya think?
Withholding fathers, is this Psych 101 or what.One more:
"Tantalizing (I kid you not) the patient sexually w/verbal comments (as opposed to non-verbal comments?) such as "Do you have nice breasts?" "Does your husband have a good looking penis?"...without any physical contact occurring."
People who strangle language this way are, to me, abusive. Not saying I have anything against abuse, not today, not when you can be refused public admission on the basis of wearing an abusive perfume. It's true.
One last thing now, to try to conclude my outburst w/ a smidgeon of compassion. If you look at their 9 basic rights of psychotherapy patients it can break your heart. Every one of them is magical thinking, a fairyland where little girls are held and soothed and the world is your universal tit. I just wish these theorists would deal directly w/ their deep-seated humiliation, and leave the social engineering to grown ups.
trouble
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