Posted by mair on December 5, 2001, at 15:59:47
In reply to Re: siblings, posted by sar on December 5, 2001, at 14:57:55
> Sar - sleep? Are you kidding - that was a great response. Besides you gave me my one laugh (not chuckle) of the day with the story about the statehood quarters.
A friend of mine who is a therapist said that there was no particular reason why siblings necessarily should be close. Her idea was that you don't choose your family, the way you do your friends, and that the shared background does not mean that you are people who would ever choose to be friends otherwise. Maybe this is really what's at play.
You've made me think about this more than I have in a while. I value my siblings because I know that they will probably be there for me when my friends might not and, in my case, the shared background is something of a bond. That said, I've only ever shared stuff about my depression with one of my sisters - the others are pretty clueless, as I 'm sure I am about lots of stuff that goes on in their lives. I enjoy being with them, but we really don't get together very often and really don't even talk on the phone much. So we're not estranged but we're not really close either. Maybe you only feel estranged from your brother because you're looking for something from him that he can't give.
Just some further ramblings
Mair
poster:mair
thread:14812
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20011130/msgs/14977.html