Posted by ChrisK on December 4, 2001, at 16:54:23
In reply to Should i open up to my mother?, posted by Anna Laura on December 4, 2001, at 0:40:49
Hi Anna Laura,
I have read a lot of your posts because I think we have many of the same situations in our lives. I have looked forward to hearing how you are doing with your anhedonia and I hope that this ssituation with your mother isn't causing a problem on top of another problem.
I can relate to the emotional detachment that goes along with many upbringings (mine is American Irish-Catholic). I can be completely sociable but remain detached emotionally from almost any situation.
When it comes to your mother I would hope that you can give her the benefit of the doubt. Those that really love us are the same as those that don't - they don't realize when they are hurting us and when they turn us away. At the same time I must admit that I am guilty of the same. I have driven my family away at times only to realize much later that it was my fault.
I thin that there comes a time when we learn to accept others at face value despite our own mental health issues. We can't always expect them to understand us but we can still accept them for who they are.
I guess through all of this I am trying to say that yes it is to harbor the feelings you do but you may need to accept them aand not neccesarilly confront your mother with it. She is probably in denial about her own problems and probably about what she put you through as a child.
If you would like to discuss this and your anhedonia further please feel free to contact me off the board at the address where it says 'posted by' above. I'm not some internet wacko but I will understand if you don't. I just see a lot of similarities in our lives as they are posted here.
Chris
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