Posted by Mair on November 13, 2001, at 21:52:53
In reply to Re:followup » shelliR, posted by Marie1 on November 12, 2001, at 20:59:28
Marie - I have no easy answers, but i can certainly identify with what you're experiencing. I sometimes feel the way you describe even if I'm just thinking about terminating a therapeutic relationship. It's as if the way you feel afterwards reinforces for you why you were in therapy to begin with. I also understand about not having anyone with whom you can really process this. My guess is that even if you didn't have the kind of feelings you are describing for your doc, your husband still wouldn't be a receptive audience. If he's anything like my spouse, he may not be unsympathetic, but the level of absorption about the nuances of therapist-patient relationships is just something I think that people who have not been in therapy cannot relate to.
I think 18 months is a long time and that anytime you leave a relationship like this where things are not really resolved, you're going to feel very torn. For me, it was always sort of a low level gnawing anxiety. I also think that there's no point in going back to this guy unless you have some commitment to stick with him for awhile more. Just my humble thoughts.
Mair
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