Posted by Gracie2 on October 23, 2001, at 23:10:39
In reply to How do u explain to a date u r on heavy psych meds, posted by jay on October 23, 2001, at 6:04:06
Cheer up, my man. My husband thinks I'm whacked out for being addicted to the "Jenny Jones" show, but the only reason I watch it is because I tend to think that the rest of the world is normal and happy and I'm the only wierd one; Jenny sets me straight. At least I'm not a pregnant heroin-addicted prostitute.
On the other hand, go slow on a first date; pouring out your life story to a stranger is as bad as trying to jump her bones when she's not ready. It doesn't mean she won't like you and won't accept you; it's just too much, too soon.
DON'T lie, though; nobody likes a lier. At the same time, almost everyone loves to talk about themselves; it's an easy way to divert attention. If she says something like, "You still live with your parents?" You say something like, "Yup, but I'm looking for my own place. If you could live anywhere you wanted to, would you live in the mountains where you could ski, or live someplace like the Florida Keys where you could dive or walk on the beach at sunset?"
I'm telling you it works, and it's not dishonest if you really want to know what she thinks. Once you get to know her better and she's attracted to you as a person, then you can tell her a bit more.
Because the stuff you don't like about yourself-
living with your parents, bankruptcy, etc. - those
are conditions and events in your life that have happened to you but they do not define you as a person, they are NOT YOU. I've read enough of your posts to know that you're an intelligent person, which puts you ahead of the pack right there. There are still way too many men out there who are interested in nothing but sex and themselves, and quite a few women looking for love and romance.
You might surprise yourself.