Posted by sar on September 7, 2001, at 2:22:50
In reply to Re: Question about pdoc/therapist protocol » Mair, posted by kazoo on September 6, 2001, at 23:30:28
i had a therapist who promised me she would not acknowledge me in public, and i felt kind of offeneded. i think she sensed my shyness and protectiveness-of-self, so she thought that was the right thing to do...but she thought wrong.
i saw a former therapist at work a couple of months ago, and she greeted me with a big smile and by name (which was discreet because i wear a nametag) and asked how i was doing. i saw the look in her eyes--i knew she cared--she was my "former" therapist only because a family tragedy had halted her career and i needed immediate attention.
i think ignoring therp/patient/pdoc is totally weird. seems suspicious to me, lke something to be ashamed of. a smile and nod, a "how are you?" "good for now, i'll see you soon," seem appropriate to me.
jeez, you share the most intimate details of yr life with this person, how can they just breeze past?
on the other hand, i saw an psych evaluator at work the other day. during our interview he seemed distracted, senile, either constipated or hungry, and when he showed up at my jobplace and saw me he smoothly moseyed away...and i was grateful, 'cos i thought he was an idiot, i really had some vitriolic feelings for him, and had no desire to wait on him.
and good on him for realizing that.
i think that psychs probably think they're being polite to not acknowledge you, like "hey there, crazy patient! how are ya?! i know you feel like hell, we'll talk wednesday!" especially if you're with someone who might question how you know this particular person.
but i think at least a handwave/smile/knowing-look is the *least* they can do...
on the optimistic side, they don't want to embarrass you...