Posted by Glenn Fagelson on August 9, 2001, at 21:43:41
In reply to Re: Glenn Roo - breaking up, posted by Wendy B. on August 9, 2001, at 12:17:36
> > Wow Wendy--that is intense stuff. I hope you have
> > had some moments of happiness and peace in between
> > the grieving. Good luck with your dad--I know that
> > must be scarey! I have suspected that some of my
> > relationship issues are related to me not having a
> > real relationship with my father as well...I guess it's
> > never too late, but it's hard to break old habits.
> > Thanks for sharing your story, and you will be in my
> > thoughts.
>
>
> Thanks, Roo,
> Of course, there have been MANY more moments of happiness and peace as time goes by. My daughter is a solace and a constant in my life. Many folks say that their children ground them, and they wouldn't know how they'd make it through without their kids, and I must say, I am one of those people. Also the Wellbutrin combo with the Neurontin is very good, and I feel it working over time. The sadness is in the background, but there every day, like some wound that won't heal. We'll see if "finding the father" makes the pain ease, or just makes me more depressed! Yikes, it's gonna be a bumpy ride with that one, I can tell already!
>
> Regarding your father issues: I think a lot of fathers are "absent" even if they live in the same house with their children... For a woman to be able to feel confident and whole, she needs to have had good fathering, I am sure of this. I am reading "The Wounded Woman" by Linda Leonard, which talks about "healing" the father-daughter relationship. It's good, maybe you'd like it, too.
>
> Thank you for caring, Roo. Glenn, let us know how you're feeling too.
> Love,
> W.I can empathize about the father issue and
relationship problems. Sometimes, my motive
for a relationship is to get the love that I
never really got from my mother. That is
always a set-up for me, but the good part
about it is that I am aware of it, and I
know that that is when I need to love myself
rather than looking for externals to satisfy
that loss.Glenn
poster:Glenn Fagelson
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