Posted by Greg A. on August 8, 2001, at 17:01:05
In reply to What would you do? Help me., posted by Gracie2 on August 8, 2001, at 16:38:24
Gracie,
You already have this one figured. Speaking as a middle aged (48) male who has spent a lifetime praticing not feeling emotions that are not manly, you have probably done your father a service by getting him to acknowledge his grief. I have 2 children (teenagers) and cannot begin to imagine what it must be like to lose a child. I also know that the unwritten code for men is that emotions like anger are okay to display, but grief and such are to be covered up. He may think he is being strong for the rest of you or something, but you got through that disguise. Just tell him you are glad to know he feels the same grief that you do and it would help you to be able to talk to him about it.
One thing I don't understand is your husband's reaction. Does he consider that you are too emotional? If your father is rather distant from you, what does it matter to your husband how your Dad reacted?
poster:Greg A.
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