Posted by Lorraine on July 21, 2001, at 11:02:41
In reply to Re: A question » Greg, posted by shelliR on July 18, 2001, at 23:34:25
Greg, Shelli, others great thread. I was a work-aholic. No doubt about it. My shrink used to say that when I finished one career goal, I would just find another mountain to climb and set the stakes a bit higher. When all was said and done, (and I had fallen into a depression as a result of staying in an abusive work relationship too long and taken on way too much stress for way too long) it turned out that in my case I never thought that I was good enough and always had to prove that I was by outward accomplishments. Now I cannot work--I can't handle really any stress at all without melting down--so I guess I really fried my receptors good with the amount of stress I took on. What Shelli is doing is trying to please herself it sounds like--which is very different than trying to please others. I had some pretty tough times in therapy coming to grips with the issue of not being good enough. I am a better person for having done so, but I do wish that I could work. There is a sense of community at work that I miss terribly. This is a good issue for you to explore. Good luck with it.
Lorraine
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