Posted by shelliR on June 2, 2001, at 10:36:54
In reply to borderline?, posted by sar on June 1, 2001, at 21:14:41
Sar,I think everybody so far has given you good advice. Assuming you are over 18, shoplifting, is stealing--theft, which is a fairly serious crime.
I think you need to focus on what you want to change about yourself. Maybe make a list. What would make you happier and make your life easier for you? Then you and your therapist can take your list and make it into a treatment plan. If you want to stop drinking, what stands in the way for you? What scares you? How can you take one step toward that goal. What emotional things have to be worked out even before you take that first step.
At the same time that you are developing these goals with your therapist, you are also developing trust with your therapist. That she will support your efforts to change and be there for you.
I think also we all want to understand who we are, and perhaps knowing our diagnosis helps to give us a place that we perceive that we belong. I actually do think learning my diagnosis was helpful in understanding that I was not a failure, but a person with a specific disorder. But the real work still came down to what do I want to change about myself and my life and how to I go about doing that.
I do hope you share your story with your therapist.
Shelli
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