Posted by mila on April 16, 2001, at 0:31:55
In reply to How do I get over this?, posted by Diane J. on April 15, 2001, at 19:41:22
dear Diane,
ask your present therapist to arrange a meeting with your former therapist while she (the present therapist) is present.
It seems, that you have never been able to end the relationship with the first one.In order to get sense of closure, you need to meet and get her to apologize for the hurt she has caused you. It would be nice if she decided to return you the money for the sessions where she was abusive ( if you paid from your own pocket).
If she refuses, write a letter to some authority above her: if she is in private practice, to her Association, etc. You need to do something about it.
Also, I would recommend you to get together with someone intimately close to you and cry, express your regret and resentment over it. You need to recognize that you'd been unwise in continuing seeing her after she had moved into abusive tratment mode. Realize, that maybe a very small, but there was also your share in allowing this to happen. Thus, you'll be able to forgive yourself and drop down the victim identity, which seem to plague you today.
I am sorry this had happened to you. This is very unfortunate.
mila
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