Posted by ShelliR on April 8, 2001, at 16:37:53
In reply to I am so alone, posted by PhoenixGirl on April 8, 2001, at 11:07:44
Phoenux Girl. Is there anything you enjoy doing that you could join a group or a club to do. Something like hiking or any kind of sport, or yoga or dance?
When I was about your age I started taking dance classes, got really into it, then got a working scholarship which meant I had to be there once a week to sign people in and take tickets at all the performances. Mostly I focused very very hard on the dance part (not at all on the social part), but gradually, just being around the same people for so long, we started going out for coffee, and doing other things together and I made some really good friends. For me the key was that I wasn't trying to make friends, just trying to get really good at dance. If I had gone to make friends I don't think I would have been able to, and I would have just felt disappointed and a failure.
So maybe do something you might enjoy anyway, focus on that, and be open to the possiblity that friendships may happen at some time.
FWIW, Shelli
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