Posted by Rzip on November 22, 2000, at 15:51:52
In reply to Re: Fair Enough; End of Thread, posted by Noa on November 22, 2000, at 13:37:44
> I also think it is important not to jump in and always react to uncivil or hostile posts--and definitely think responding in kind is not a good idea. I don't agree with you that this is a place to correct other people's attitudes or problems. It is a place for mutual support. That doesn't mean we cannot disagree or confront each other sometimes. But I don't feel responsible to somehow correct anyone's supposed pattern of self-indulgence. To assume that self-indulgence is the problem is a big assumption. There is a lot we don't know about each other here.
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> I feel that my job here as a participant is to maintain good boundaries around myself. And to speak honestly about my opinions and feelings if I can do so in a way that doesn't add undue hostility here.
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> Dr. Bob has advised, at times, the following (I am paraphrasing--Dr. Bob, plese feel free to correct if necessary): if you don't think you can say something without bumping up against the civility boundary and possibly crossing it, it is usually a good idea to withhold your thoughts, or wait and restate them in a more civil way.
I think at some point, Dr. Bob sometimes comes in and sets a boundary for the board, but sometimes a person can participate here within the boundaries of the board, but each of us needs to be aware of our own boundary needs.
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> Geez, I have no idea if this makes sense, I feel I have rambled on and overused the word boundary....
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> This dialogue is important. Dialogue is good. We don't always have to agree. I appreciate your considering other perspectives.Noa,
I think your post made perfect sense. I am a big advocate of civility and politeness. Civil mannerism makes the society liveable.
- Rzip
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