Posted by rfs on September 4, 2006, at 16:45:47
In reply to Re: Marriage » rfs, posted by Jost on September 4, 2006, at 11:33:56
> Hi, Ray.
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> From reading these two posts, I get the feeling that your wife has a tendency to be dissatisfied and quick to anger. Also impulsive, so that she says and does things that are not thought through --like threatening another person, or criticizing someone who sits in front of her.
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> It's as if you both feel out of place with one another-- not accepted, and also not able to work together, at odds or almost against one another, and maybe yourselves.
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> Have you tried individual T? do you use any ADs or anti=anxiety meds? Does your wife? Is she depressed?
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> Are there times when you get along and have good moments?
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> JostHi
I am in therapy. My wife has beem. I take both AD & anti anxiety medication. (I feel they have helped me tremendously) My wife does not. I have suggested that she might benefit from medication, as you might imagine that didn't go over well. Often I think she is suffering from depression or a anger disorder. I should have mentioned she is 48 and is going through menapause. There are times when we get along. Not many though. I feel as though I am walking on eggs, most of the time. I do feel out of place with her. We seem to become very different. She seems to be more "sophiticated" while I seem to be a lot more run of the mill. She likes going to go to different restaurants while I could eat a delux buger everyday. She is organized and I am not. She functions well in business and I don't. I am a lot more sensitive then her. Although very intelligent in some areas verbal skills etc. She seems to lack an understanding of her own or others motivation. She has not spoken to her father in about 10 years, until recently. He is ill/dying. She jokes that he said to her that he gets upset after speaking to her. She wonders why, as the fact that he is ill might have an effect on him. He walked away from his family over 20 years ago. She said that she wishes that he was already dead. She seems to have zero sympathy for him. My own father was ill and dying a few years back. We had a poor relationship, but I went and sat with him everyday the last month of his life. It just didn't seem right for him to die alone.
Ray
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