Posted by cricket on April 18, 2006, at 14:50:11
In reply to Re: Boundaries with Mothers, posted by cricket on April 18, 2006, at 8:49:56
And yes, you're right Special K I don't really believe in romantic love. At least not as it is paraded about in our culture.
Because again it's that enlarging of boundaries.
It seems to be an appropriation of the other person. First it starts out with some lust (that's the part I understand :-)) but then it becomes some sort of mutual inflation of the other party quickly followed by a boundary enlargement that keeps the inflation going on (you're wonderful and you're mine so I must be wonderful kind of thing) until it all crashes and there's a lot of hurt and pain.
Of course, that's my interpretation (only having observed and not experienced it myself) and I guess others who believe in romantic love would describe it very differently.
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