Posted by Tamar on May 26, 2005, at 9:48:55 [reposted on May 28, 2005, at 17:43:54 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Ever wonder about monogomy? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Jazzed on May 26, 2005, at 9:13:22
> I agree that for women it's generally emotional, and for men not necessarily, it's more physical, at least initially. That's where the problems sometimes lie I think. We look for love, that's also what happens a lot of times in therapy I guess.
I think it may be a question of degree. I don't find the idea of having one night stands particularly appealing because I like to know a person at least a little bit if I'm gonig to be physically intimate with them.
Having said that, I don't think it's all about a search for romantic love. Before I was married I used to sleep with some of my friends from time to time. It was, well, friendly. I wasn't looking for anything more, and neither were they. It didn't change the friendship significantly; it just added another layer. But it's not socially acceptable to do that now I'm married!
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