Posted by Tamar on May 26, 2005, at 5:05:57 [reposted on May 28, 2005, at 17:43:53 | original URL]
In reply to Ever wonder about monogomy?, posted by Jazzed on May 26, 2005, at 4:17:33
Yeah, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. But I always end up back at the same point: I can’t imagine day-to-day life with anyone except my husband. I can imagine romance and sex and fun dates with other people, but I find it quite difficult to picture myself washing another man’s clothes, arguing about whose turn it is to clean the bathroom, or sitting in front of the TV in companionable silence.
Now if we lived in a world where we could have romantic dates with someone else and then return to our husbands, that would be interesting. But I guess there would be a lot of sexual jealousy.
Sometimes I wonder why sex isn’t just like anything else people do with their friends. I go to movies with my friends, I eat and drink with them, I talk to them about personal things. Why isn’t sex on the menu? No one gets jealous if I hug my friends; why do people get jealous about sex? I suppose if we lived in a world without jealousy, without sexually-transmitted diseases, and without concerns about who will take care of the children, it might be possible to be less monogamous.
But for me, the bottom line is: if I want to grow old with anyone, it’s my husband. I have my friends too, but I don’t particularly want to live with them. And so far, I haven’t met another man I would really want to live with. Of course, if I ever do, maybe I’ll feel different. (Well, of course there’s my ex-therapist: I’m certain he’d be a wonderful husband and we’d be completely compatible in every way; we’d never argue or hurt each other, and we would live in absolute harmony and love. If only I could get him to realise it!)
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