Posted by Deneb on July 12, 2017, at 19:21:12
In reply to babble, posted by rjlockhart37 on September 5, 2016, at 18:56:08
Hi RJ,
I agree with Clearskies, everyone has their pace. You're still young. Try not to compare yourself to others because everyone's situation is different.
I used to get depressed and jealous of my sister doing better than me. She had a boyfriend, she moved out, and got a PhD. By most measures, she is a very successful person.
But then I realized that there's a good chance that her life wouldn't make me happy. I'm not sure that I'd even like to do the work required for a PhD.
Her personality is also very different from mine. We're completely different despite having similar childhoods. She has different challenges, and issues. I can handle things that she can't.
I think life is like a video game where some characters have different strengths and weaknesses that they begin with. An achievement on hard mode versus easy mode is very different. It wouldn't be fair to compare achievements on hard mode and easy mode the same way.
Don't worry about others, and what they are like or think. Focus on what you want. I think being more laid-back is a legitimate lifestyle choice.
Not everyone is going to be happy with a high powered job, spouse and kids.
Don't be hard on yourself for not meeting milestones that others your age are meeting. Do what you want on your timeline. People can be successful at any age. Life is an adventure. Enjoy the ride, bumps and all.
I think that once I stopped judging myself, I started to do things for myself. I stopped caring about what others expected.
You've already grown a lot, from what I've seen.
I think you're going to be OK. :-)
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