Posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2014, at 16:07:13
In reply to stalking, posted by deerock on October 15, 2014, at 21:30:58
hi dee. sorry i've taken so long to respond... i'm not really sure what to say.
it sounds to me like you have some ambivalence about having ended the relationship. and you are still very much bound up in being concerned with how you are affecting her... how she feels about you now. angry? afraid? what? something... surely...
i'm glad to hear that you were able to stop yourself calling her when she asked you to. and that you are responsive to your fears that she might report your behavior to the police. that you don't want that. and that she knows that you have a history of this and she also knows that no harm came of it.
it might be that she is tolerating it... because she knows it will help you move on. typically when a relationship ends... both parties know the relationship isn't so good...
i do hope you find some peace soon. can you think of what things in the past have helped you move on? refocus your attention elsewhere? perhaps it is time for something new in your life? a new group... a hobby... a pet...
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