Posted by baseball55 on June 28, 2014, at 20:43:37
In reply to Re: And this is why I don't post on this board., posted by Dinah on June 28, 2014, at 13:56:33
Once I had an appointment with my p-doc and he wasn't in his office. I waited and saw him walking toward the door. When he arrived, he looked angry and said - I'm not here to see you. But we had an appointment, I said. He replied, I lost my appointment book and have had a crazy week. I'm here to meet someone who's painting the office. I'll call you later. then he went into the office and left me standing in the lobby.
I was upset, angry, etc. He called a few hours later and apologized and rescheduled. I was still angry. But I had to accept that he is just a human being who can lose his calendar and lose his temper and have a sh*tty week. He tries to protect me from this, but, in nine years, it's inevitably going to spill over.
I try to be understanding and compassionate. I also try, like Dinah, to maintain a level of distance, knowing that he is not my friend or family and may, at any time, abandon me for personal/health reasons.
Keeping that distance has been hard. It's gotten easier in the last couple of years. But it's still hard. Therapists aren't like hairdressers, where you have a bad cut and just move on. We get attached and needy. But they are not ours to keep. I guess nobody is ours to keep though, realistically.
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