Posted by alexandra_k on January 26, 2014, at 18:42:17
In reply to Re: Attachment Theory?, posted by alexandra_k on January 26, 2014, at 17:44:14
> or... that should have been enough. i would think... i am almost certain... that that would have been enough for me. because... it was obvious once it was mentioned. the problem was that it wasn't mentioned / that the people who it occured to didn't mention it. you shouldn't have to f*ck*ng well look at the nurses ever five minutes just to check whether they have something important to say but they have just decided to use sign language today... should you??
> i don't know.because there is something that falls out...
if you do a lot of math / logic... if you get good at math / logic you learn to grant certain things.
you can answer questions about what bus you should take from the city to get to the stadium on time for the game and you KNOW you don't get to pick the one that runs an hour earlier in order to plan for such things as traffic / the bus being late / the inevitable delays.
you can answer questions about whether the driver should flip the switch on the trolley car to run over 1 to save 5 without talking about how the driver should flip this other switch to turn off the power because the trolley is running on electric.
you learn to make certain assumptions and not question them. questioning them is tiresome... it is missing the point.
and more doctors come 'oh you are stuck, how can i help' and of course the problem is 'i'm trying to insert this tube down here and i can't quite get it to do...' so you end up with a bunch of people trying to get the tube down.
and a nurse standing there... with the tracheotomy kit. not quite sure whether that is like how they wanted to turn off the electricity to the trolly car or catch the earlier bus just in case (and so if they say tracheotomy!) someone will bite their head off for their suggestion... one could be nicer and kinder... but too much of that and then you get happy puppy noises so the signal gets lost that way, too...
what's to be done???
communication. obviously. better communication. more understanding. more empathy. on both sides.
i have had times when someone was about to start making my life a living hell because they felt i wasn't paying sufficient attention to them... when someone took them a bit aside... and said something to them... not entirely sure what... and they just... left me alone. then approached me more calmly at some other time. and i was able to interact with them then. and then things were okay. there need to be more people like that. bridges. social smoothers. people who speak both languages. to facilitate. there are strengths and weaknesses in both ways of being... and of course it is a matter of degree...
but i think it should be more about expanding upon / improving upon what you have rather than changing to be more like others.
i think.
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