Posted by Wittgensteinz on January 9, 2012, at 14:11:22
In reply to Re: Thinking about.........termination....... » Wittgensteinz, posted by Dinah on January 9, 2012, at 11:34:30
Do you mean that you're afraid you'll lose the connection needed in order for him to help you when you need him to?
To begin with it didn't feel the same and really it took quite a while before I adjusted. It spilled over into my daily life too - I found myself forgetting things/losing things during the first weeks after the reduction in sessions. This didn't last however, I gradually adapted and things feel the same - obviously the relationship changes over time in any case but the reduction in intensity hasn't interfered with that. I've always been able to schedule extra sessions should I want/need them, so in that sense when I've needed extra contact it's been there - that in itself is very reassuring even though I rarely go for extra sessions. The one time when it does hit me though is just before a break and just after - it's harder to get started again/back into the swing of things with just one session a week.
I'd say it's good to be in a good place if/when you reduce sessions and to talk it through a lot first - then if you decide to do it, do it on a trial basis so you don't feel pressured to keep with it should it not suit. There's nothing final about it - if you feel you can't maintain the connection/closeness then you can always notch the frequency up again. It may just not be the right time and these things can't be rushed.
Witti
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