Posted by floatingbridge on October 1, 2011, at 22:05:54
In reply to Should I have a baby?, posted by PhoenixGirl on October 1, 2011, at 19:00:41
PG, there isn't really a 'should' it to my mind. What I mean is, what other ways can you frame the questions that will help you decide?
Having a child and depression has been very difficult for me, though I admit he pushes me to do my very best (which always seems to fall short, but I discuss this in therapy). Bluntly, I have often thought that being a depressed mother can be, at times, a special kind of hell. But maybe depression is not as big an issue for you.
The stress is astronomical. No one could have told me.
I think I am still recovering from the stress of sleep deprivation alone. He's seven, and I still sleep vigilantly, like a cat. Before pregnancy, I slept like a rock and needed it.
Then again, I love him more than any other person. That poses it's own difficulties. Because, wow, that places the stakes pretty darn high. And as previously mentioned, the stress of child-rearing is already high even for the more care-free amongst us.
I dig a pony.
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