Posted by emmanuel98 on July 1, 2011, at 21:43:08
In reply to Re: update, posted by Annabelle Smith on July 1, 2011, at 11:07:49
> I want to ask you something:
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> Think back to early on-- like after your first year with your p-doc. Would the thought of having to leave him have brought you to near panic and distress, to near complete loss of functionality?Yes - absolutely. I could barely stand it if he went on vacation and he takes short vacations, never more than two weeks out of the office. He has a house on the cape, so he doesn't go away at all in the summer, just takes long weekends, which is good. I never understood how people could handle their T taking off for a whole month in August, as so many do.
As far as re-parenting goes, realize that much as you may long for him to become a caring parent, he can never really give you that. Nobody can. You are no longer a child and will never have what you may have missed from your own parents. Ultimately, you need to reparent yourself, to grieve the losses of your childhood and learn to be kind and at ease with yourself. That's what he can teach you.
What I wonder about with your posts is that you don't seem to really get much out of the relationship with your T. You report leaving sessions unhappy, feeling you didn't say what you wanted to say. I never felt that way. I always found my sessions productive. They made me happy and I couldn't wait to do it again. Even today, when I've been very depressed, I usually feel happier after I see him.
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