Posted by Solstice on February 7, 2011, at 6:31:48
In reply to Re: Nutritionist: Update and Transference » Annabelle Smith, posted by Annabelle Smith on February 2, 2011, at 20:32:27
> More directly-- if I am honest with myself, you are totally right. I do care what he thinks. I want to project a positive image; hence the embarrassment and shame if we talk about things that to me seem less than flattering.
I can`t wait till you experience the realization that your `less than flattering` self does not harm the relationship... does not scare him away. In fact.. when your `less than flattering` self is there.. in therapy.. and you see the same acceptance in his eyes.. that`s when the deepest intimacy starts.Solstice.
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> In general, I care way too much with what other people think-- hence the faking it and feeling unreal, being like a mirror to them, reflecting back what they think. I want to feel real in their affirmation.
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