Posted by Solstice on November 4, 2010, at 21:35:27
In reply to Re: Confused about what this means! Worried! Panicky!, posted by Anemone on November 4, 2010, at 16:25:15
> Thank you so much! And thanks for welcoming me.
my pleasure :)
> You are right, the only way to be sure is to ask her. Logically I know I should do what you suggested.
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> I am afraid to, though... I imagine that she is rejecting my mail to show me that "it's not OK to love her/ send her a love letter". If I call her, I might seem clingy.
Well... maybe there is another way to perceive the possibilities. You can imagine that her address changed, or the post office made a mistake... right? So you have a choice about which way to perceive it.
> There is a 50% chance that I will suffer until I can ask her in person, and 50% that I will break down and call her.
If it was me, I'd have to go with whatever eliminates the suffering. Especially since the chance of your therapist having the reaction you fear is very, very small. And if she did, Anemone, then she doesn't deserve to be a therapist and you should find out right now so you can cut your loses and run.So it's entirely up to you, but I think that calling means you come out ahead of where you are now, regardless of which way it goes. Suffering for a period of time before hand won't change the outcome.
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> Thanks again Solstice, your help made my day, to know that I'm not crazy for feeling anxious about this. I can tell you're a really nice person by reading what you write on Babble!
>No - you're not crazy! And it looks like I've now been gifted with another kindness... two in one day! Thank you!
Solstice
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