Posted by Dinah on September 30, 2010, at 0:35:39
In reply to Re: My therapist liked what you guys said, posted by Daisym on September 29, 2010, at 23:21:48
> And I'm reminded that when you get bored in therapy, you sometimes pick a fight...hmmmm
That's occurred to me. It's also occurred to me that when I feel bored, it's a sign that the connection and intensity is too low. And that conflict brings intensity. Or that perhaps when I cannot regain the connection, and perhaps when something happens to make him break it even more, I lash out.
Seems so alien to me, though. Usually I prefer my relationships to be comfy rather than intense.
The hard part is in recognizing what I need as what I need changes. He has been what I needed. But maybe its' possible that at some point I'll need something different?
Apparently not yet. But someday it might happen. And how will I know?
Who he is to me changes. I wish it weren't so, but it is.
poster:Dinah
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