Posted by wittgensteinz on September 29, 2010, at 3:16:25
In reply to My therapist liked what you guys said, posted by Dinah on September 28, 2010, at 19:26:16
This all sounds rather positive. A feeling of disappointment is probably far more livable than feelings of hatred and anger - last week was a difficult week for you. But sometimes it takes such an onslaught of powerful emotions before we realize what we really feel about something.
I'm glad you are going to take your time and talk about cutting back - the more you explore it, the more you'll be prepared for the feelings that arise if and when you actually do it.
I think your words about being the client and that during the session it is about YOU not him were well put. I get the feeling you can be a good advocate for yourself - that's quite an accomplishment.
Even though rationally you have a lot of insight into your therapist, the therapy and yourself, it is good that he was able to state his limits in terms of his experience and knowledge. Sometimes these things need to come from him, even if you already knew it yourself.
No therapy relationship is perfect and therapists are human (in their own way!) - but I sincerely believe your T is one of the 'good guys'.
I was looking through the archives the other day - reading my earlier posts was a bit like looking back through a journal. Almost 2 years ago I had a very rough patch with my T (not that I'd forgotten but reading the posts I wrote at the time brought back some details that had faded in my mind). I think he made some mistakes at the time - he was probably under a lot of stress (I had attempted suicide) and probably felt a mix of emotions toward me at that point. Happily that event and the aftermath seem quite distant now - although not fully resolved (like a wound that has healed leaving a little scar), moving on is possible - even from the worst of situations - the relationship now seems to be better than it has ever been. I think there is also a lot to be learned from these ruptures (even if the immediate emotions are difficult to bear).
Witti
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