Posted by LostPirate on August 13, 2010, at 7:18:54
In reply to Re: T's + daughters + weddings..., posted by Dinah on August 12, 2010, at 22:39:31
I think it may be a little of what you have all mentioned.
My mom is in my life but she isnt stable and can be quite hurtful. My T is also in my life and is reliable and is not hurtful. So, yes, the maternal transference runs deep. But we talk about it and keep it in check. I guess that is why this wedding thing makes me crazy. Thoughts of her as a nurturing mom are torturous to me and they are quite vivid this week. She doesnt know that I know about the wedding so we cant really talk about that. Id almost prefer it that wayI dont want to step on her personal life. I know she would not like that. We meet once more before she goes away and I think I should at least talk about my insecure feelings in our relationship right now and see where it goes. Let her know my transference is flaring up and maybe we can quiet it a little. Sometimes I wish I could just walk out of her door and never look back and have no feelings about it. I dont think that can be done. I cant believe how sad this is making me.
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