Posted by Dr. Bob on July 4, 2010, at 12:14:14
In reply to Re: 'You're Harmful!' » emilyp, posted by violette on July 3, 2010, at 18:18:09
> I mean to be harsh (notice the word "don't" is missing from this sentenance) because I'm not sure how else to influence you to stop and take a look at your own issues to prevent you from possibly harming others
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> I'm just calling a bully as I see onePlease don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person, and I'm sorry if this hurts you.
emilyp, I'm also sorry if you felt hurt.
I appreciate efforts to keep this site supportive, and posters do tend to prefer friendly reminders from other posters to official notices from me and the deputy administrators, but the key to friendly reminders is being friendly, or at least civil. If you feel someone is being harmful, don't harm them, post something helpful. If you feel they're being uncivil, you can also use the "notify administrators" button to let us know.
More information about posting policies and tips on alternative ways to express oneself, including a link to a nice post by Dinah on I-statements, are in the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
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