Posted by morganator on April 23, 2010, at 18:12:21
In reply to Re: caught up over issue of diagnosis » emilyp, posted by deerock on April 22, 2010, at 13:38:25
> hi emily, i can understand why that comment may have made you think twice.
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> what i mean is that i think the diagnosis of borderline personality, in my case, is a matter of opinion. i have seen many docs who have told me that it is not the case that i suffer from that.
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> so when i say it is her job to tell me there is nothing wrong with me, what i mean is that i feel she is being paid to tell me i am ok and may have some things to work on but that i am ok. i think telling someone they are borderline is far from encouraging in any way and says something quite different from "youre ok." thats just how i see it.
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> what i am saying is that if some people who have treated me do not think i am borderline but my therapist does, then perhaps that says something about how she views me which is not helpful.I just don't see a problem with her viewing you as possibly suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. I also think that if you might have it, it would be in your best interest to know that you do. It's like cancer or HIV, not knowing that we are ill makes it impossible to find a way to treat the illness. I'm sorry if I sound like I'm being hard on you.
I wish my therapist had realized a long time ago that I was bipolar and told me that she suspected it. This may have helped me avoid some of the issues I have dealt with over the past few years. I would have done research on it and done whatever I could to avoid having a major episode.
I have a friend that was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and he feels he is better off for it. He realized that his parents were largely to blame for the development of his disorder. Instead of getting angry and bitter about this, he used this knowledge as a way to take himself off the hook and have compassion for himself. It was no longer his fault. He was not just born f*ck*d up.
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