Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2009, at 9:12:31
In reply to I don't understand (may be triggering), posted by Helana on December 23, 2009, at 11:48:40
I don't know if it's a good or bad thing, but I could never accept so vague a non-answer. I would worry away at it like a dog with a bone.
"What do you mean, people change? Of course they change. What does that have to do with this situation. Are you saying you've changed? Because this is your decision. Are you saying you think what's best for me has changed? If you make a unilateral decision about what's best for me, oughtn't you at least fully explain it? I respect that you no longer wish to accept my calls. But I do wonder why, and why this change was never communicated except through actions. Do you regret having given me your private number? Did I misuse the privilege? What alternate solutions have you made for your clients if they are in crisis?"
etc etc etc until my poor therapist would rue the day he ever said such a thing.
I wouldn't be angry and confrontational, but I'd likely be curious and persistent in trying to understand.
But then I do tend to dissect things until I thoroughly understand them. I don't think it's a bad trait, though my therapist may disagree.
To my mind, therapy is supposed to be someplace we learn to discuss things with words rather than act them out in behavior. And to learn to understand our motivations and our interactions with others. It is purely my own opinion, but I think therapists should provide an example in the former and lead the way in the latter.
poster:Dinah
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