Posted by Dinah on September 3, 2009, at 12:08:49
In reply to Re: more anger towards my therapist deerock » Dinah, posted by deerock on September 3, 2009, at 9:25:56
I'm guessing you overrate normal. :)
Most people have *something* to deal with. More deal with emotional issues than you likely know. Others deal with physical problems, or money problems, or family problems. Many of those seemingly normal people probably feel pretty fragile or scared inside.
The important thing isn't to achieve normality, or a vision of it. It's to understand how *you* tick, and to work with what you've got. It's not unlike my migraines. I know at times I get into a migraine state, where small things can trigger one. So I avoid those triggers as much as possible. I can't keep the barometer from dropping, but I can wear sunglasses when I drive, for example. Knowing yourself, you personally - not a diagnosis, allows you to do the things you need to do to keep yourself at your best.
As far as willpower for diets and exercise, if you find something let me know. I don't do it myself. I think it comes down to reward/cost. If the costs of eating get high enough, I might stop eating too much. But until then, the rewards I get from eating exceed the rewards I get from dieting, so I'm not likely to diet.
Making small changes in your diet probably works better than a big diet plan anyway. I found myself often buying sugary fountain drinks, when I could just stick a bottle of water in my purse instead. You might not stick with a grand exercise plan, but you might park further away from the store to walk a bit further every day.
But no, I'm not sure understanding yourself helps with those things. What it does help with is keeping yourself out of the extremes and more into the center. Well, if that's your issue anyway. I'm not sure which personality disorder diagnosis you received.
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