Posted by Dinah on August 13, 2009, at 11:31:15
In reply to Re: Distress tolerance » Dinah, posted by seldomseen on August 13, 2009, at 9:36:05
Ok, that one is definitely going into my personal kit. :) I do have a tendency to lose the larger picture - not only emotionally but in many ways. Daddy used to fuss at me about it.
One thing I find helpful to tolerate distress is probably more in the area of effectiveness than distress tolerance. But it also works in that area.
I find that I am such an avoider that I stew over things I needn't stew over. For example, I often get two assignments with deadlines that overlap. My tendency is to struggle to do both, do neither very well because my brain gets disorganized from stress, then present my bosses with the best I have.
The last few months, maybe almost a year, I've been trying to remember, when I'm feeling stressed enough that I can't concentrate, to call one of my bosses and tell them what's going on and ask them what to do. They may prefer that I figure it all out on my own, but they prefer that I ask rather than waffle, so they tell me something and poof! my distress is gone. The same is true for other types of indecision or issues that cause me to try to avoid instead of act.
It may not be distress tolerance per se, but it sure is a way to stop distress. :)
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