Posted by antigua3 on August 9, 2009, at 18:49:31
In reply to Re: Disappointment or Relief?, posted by Partlycloudy on August 9, 2009, at 16:57:39
> My mother has said all along that she did the best she could.
That's what my mother says all the time and it's not good enough. She was selfish, pure and simple. I can understand in some ways why she did the things she did, but they were still wrong.
> I think that, given what I learned from her, it was a huge part of my decision (and also my sister's) of us both not having children.
I thought about this a really long time before having children, but I am married to a very stable, loving man who had great parental role models, so I figured he could help me along the way. (Not that they, or he, are/were perfect!)
It has been really important to me to raise my children differently than I was raised (ha! I raised myself) so the pattern would stop with me. So far, I think, or hope anyway, that I have been successful. While I feel miserable about my own life right now, I feel good about them. (Of course, I've had my T so long that she actually helped raise them too, which is worth every penny I've ever spent on therapy.)
Of course, they will have their own issues. Will I say I did the best I could? Hmmm, interesting thing to ponder.
So nice to hear from you. Hope you're hanging in there.
antigua
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