Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 19, 2009, at 12:56:45
In reply to Re: Please follow site guidelines » Sigismund, posted by garnet71 on June 19, 2009, at 1:37:13
Oh, garnet, see, this is why I want to respond by gently suggesting other therapies. But I won't. You don't want it. Can I just suggest that *someday*, if this doesn't work out for you, you think of DBT? It didn't sound to me, in our conversations, as though you've ever had the chance to try it. I think of DBT immediately when I hear expressed needy feelings, easy attachment (another way to put it is idolization--another framework would say that). A lot of people think DBT is for Borderline Personality Disorder only and I want to say that that's not true, at all. Even Birdsong elsewhere mentioned all the things DBT has been found to be good for, including PTSD.
When you mention manipulation--that's exactly what I'm talking about in my criticisms of the approach.
But I'm going to go up and over my bias and just suggest that you give it a try with the new person (you are, right?). Nothing is for ever, and you can at least try it and see if it works for you.
I support you no matter what. Wonderful you. ~Amelia
> thanks. I am starting to feel traumatized by this whole attachment thing. I don't know how to deal with these needy feelings and wonder why he waited to the very end of the session to tell me he was referring me out, after telling me he already decided upon it after the end of last visit.
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> I told him first thing about this attachment. He was acting very strange, said he wanted the rest of my history but acted like he was not interested, unlike the last 2 times. Repeating questions strangely, major questions/life milestones I think he already knew the answers to, when before he was very quick and sharp, remembering details. Unless he wss just reassesing my answers to see if my answers were same as when I last told him since I was in a state of anxiety when I arrived. who knows what other resons could be behind that. And it makes me wonder why he said I accused him of manipulating me, when I did not say that. I just don't know how these doctors operate, i mean, it seems like everything is manipulation in some way. I was reading some analyst journals, and that's basically what the whole therapy is. I don't have a problem with those concepts, just with the way this was handled the more I think about it.
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> It just seems odd he would tell me right before i left, 5 mins before session end, rather than tell me at the beginning--when he could have explained what happened and told me how to cope with it. He's right on schedule by the exact minute, start end, etc. And there was a patient waiting because I kept him 2 mintues and he said something about it when i was upset.
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> Surely in his 30 plus years of practice he's encountered such things. It's really affecting me and I haven't been able to sleep. I called and left him another message, asking for advice on how to deal with this.
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> I've had 4 therapists over the years. Called them for things other than scheduling issues not more than 3 times total for crises/emotional upset over 8 years. Once when my sis had a breakdown, once when in emotional stress w/ex bf and I don't remember why the other time.
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> I've already called this doctor 3 times for emotional distress and I've only known him 3 weeks.
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