Posted by BirdSong on June 17, 2009, at 22:55:35
In reply to Re: New psychiatrist/analyst can't treat me, posted by BirdSong on June 17, 2009, at 22:15:15
Ok....perhaps I should just say it.
1) You said he was old.
2) You wanted psychodynamic therapy. Whether that is the best method right now for you is subject for debate....(which I would be happy to discuss at another time)...BUT.....he was coming from a psychodynamic perspective, therefore.....
3) Quick "attachment"...intense attachment as you displayed immediately can signify "certain diagnoses," which require more intensive therapy
4) Additionally these same issues can require long-term therapy...years.
From the perspective he was coming from and from what you shared and the issues that came up, Garnet, he did the right thing. He actually probably saved you from getting hurt later on when you got really into therapy and he had to retire or cut his hours back or .....
This has NOTHING to do with you, but has to do with the limitations of him as a T.
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For example: You know I work with teens/kids. You know I do DBT with them. What you don't know is that I limit my practice to only a certain number of DBT clients at a time. So I have 'X' number of teens in DBT and 'X' number of kids that are further along doing other therapy.......MY colleagues take 'X' number of DBT clients and 'X' number of other kids as well...It is not because of the clients...If I could I would take them all. But because there are only so many hours in the day and so many days of the week that I can work....and be "at my best."
Another example....
Now, assume I get chronically ill and I can only keep working with the kids I currently have (I usually work with kids 1-4 years)..I cant take anymore no matter how much potential or "connection" or anything we have, because the chronic illness tires me out more quickly.It's not because of the clients....it is because T's are human....
There is a T out there for you. Trust me.
And there is one that is going to love working through transference etc, if that is what you want....He did you a favor...(not about the selection of referrals he gave you, but about his decision)
poster:BirdSong
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