Posted by SLS on April 10, 2009, at 13:54:54
In reply to Thank You. I'm really sad about this., posted by Kenya on April 10, 2009, at 13:18:59
> Should I call her again now that I've calmed down and ask her if we can have a final session? Or is it too late?
Only the therapist will know the answer to your question. However, to ask it will take a lot of courage, and, with it, the recognition that you might be very disappointed by the answer.
There are very few scripts in life that we must follow. Just because most people are of the opinion that you should move on immediately to someone new, this may not be the best path for you to take. Perhaps it would be best for YOU to return to your old therapist and see if you might want to start working together again, despite a majority opinion that you should not.
You were very descriptive in your post as to the things that you are afraid of. As easy as this is to say, it might be best to push past your fears and find a new therapist. I think you know whether or not this old therapist has really provided you with what you need. I suspect that your intuition will let you feel what is right for you.
Finding another therapist might not be as overwhelming a process as it might at first seem. I think the post that Dinah provided a link to might give you an idea as to where to begin. I know it seems like a chore to start all over again with a new therapist. However, it probably wouldn't take more than a few sessions for you and the therapist to become functionally synchronized. I guess a lot of that will have to do with your willingness to disclose your major issues.
My suggestion is for you to write a summary of what your needs and expectations are. Include as much as you can about your history and present issues, understanding that there will be more to discover as the two of you work together. I have had to use four different psychotherapists in three years. This happens very often at mental health clinics. Relax. It is really not such a big deal. Besides, if you don't click with the very next person that you see, you then simply shop around for someone else.
Hang in there. This difficult period will pass, and you might impress yourself with how much you can accomplish on your own in order to make things happen. If you don't impress yourself, I can express that I am already impressed with you for your honesty and candor. You are a fighter, and one who is willing to do what is necessary to grow and work towards being happy. If these things weren't true, you wouldn't be here posting, would you?
- Scott
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