Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 10, 2009, at 8:58:31
In reply to I Feel So Weird, posted by backseatdriver on March 9, 2009, at 22:23:38
I understand....my t and I are close to the same age, and are alike in over 30 different ways......he started to be seductive, and of course I (alone after 31 years of an abusive marriage, and a church who voted me out of membership) was "ripe" for the picking.
I've never had a man who didn't fail me....abuse and abandoment; so my t was my "knight"
He is also a pastor, trains counselors, just got is Ph.D. and is married.
He goes back and forth between seductive behavior and guilt, which transforms into him becoming cold. I cannot deal with that.
Some day i will have to let him know how much he has hurt me. The terrible thing is that I will continue to suffer; who knows how long. He can go back to his cozy little life.
The only way to know what is going on with your t, is to talk about it (unfortunately)...scary, but necessary in order to understand.
His behavior is not YOUR fault. If you FEEl seduced, then more than likely he is doing something to make you feel that way.
How do you broach the topic?
How about: I've been feeling like something is going on between us that perhaps is unspoken? Go from there. If he is a good t, he will want to talk about it.
hugs, Sassy
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