Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 6, 2009, at 13:55:51
In reply to Re: Sexual Misconduct/ What my T has said and Done, posted by BayLeaf on March 6, 2009, at 13:36:42
>Are you new here? Haven't seen you before...if so...welcome!
If you don't want advice, and you certainly *know* what the reaction will be...what is it that you need? How can babblers help you to do what you know you need to do?
i realize no one can help me (just like when I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse); had to do it myself.
I am not sure what I need. I did however need....to vent this stuff....and hoped I wouldn't be criticized. Needed to be heard.
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> You've been abused by a counselor before. No...this is the same one. You know what you need to do. It's horrendously difficult - but the path is clear.
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> I feel like you WANT to read our reactions, but - you already know...you already know what we will all say.
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> So, what is it that you need to help you do it? I want to help you do what you KNOW you need to do. What will it take for you to take one step away from him? He is an abuser. You know this.It is surreal and bizarre; I wish I could explain it better...it is so difficult to believe he is abusive. I know that is irrational. It's like being brainwashed, it is so unbelievable, you wonder if the experience is real.
Also, it is that intermittent reinforcement;...good and bad, etc...
There are so many variables, I cannot even begin to talk about them.
Simply needed to be heard. That is what we all need. Thanks.>
> Bay
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