Posted by lucie lu on March 6, 2009, at 9:51:17
In reply to Re: OMG Meltdown in session » lucie lu, posted by antigua3 on March 6, 2009, at 9:32:48
> I can't express how sorry I am that you're going through all this right now. Especially w/the rupture w/your T. You're doing the right thing by constantly bringing it up (like I do with my darned pdoc!), but he either isn't hearing you or is clueless, in which case seeking consultation is probably the right course of action.
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> Of course it certainly doesn't help to go through this w/o his support. My heart aches for you. You sound like me: When is enough simply enought? How hard do we have to keep pushing when we're not getting what we need in return? Or feel like we're really not being heard?
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> I hope things go better this afternoon w/him.
> antiguaThanks, Antigua. I know you understand all too well. It is such an important relationship and packs so much emotional punch. It is so important to us that it succeed and can be heart-breaking when it doesn't.
I was thinking of you with your T and pdoc when I saw the consultant, who I really like a lot. I saw her 3 times last fall and another 3 times more recently. These short-term consultations have been very helpful, I think, in helping me sort out things that deeply trouble me in my relationship with my T. I find myself wishing that I could see her too just to work on things that arise in my relationship with my T (lol). I read about something like that in a book. This woman client was seeing a pdoc/T and was making big positive changes in most aspects of her life. However, even while she was making all these positive changes in her life, she was getting more and more anxious and depressed when she met with her T. She sought consultation with a woman T, and in the end saw her regularly to help her deal with her worries about her pdoc! Apparently this arrangement worked surprisingly well and she was able to finish her therapy having met most of her goals and was no longer depressed. (She must have had great insurance.)
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