Posted by twinleaf on February 21, 2009, at 21:26:09
In reply to Re: a follow-up- the last one! » twinleaf, posted by Dinah on February 21, 2009, at 16:45:09
Thanks so much for your words of support and encouragement, Dinah, Daisy, Kath and Happy. It really was the most violent and amazing thing that happened, because he had been so competent and helpful up until that point. As you can imagine, my present analyst and I have spent many, many hours trying to help me get past it all; the most recent comment he made was, "you are probably the only one who knows he's crazy!" His not showing up at the committee meeting was discouraging. because it may mean he is going to continue in denial.
The course I chose was the least severe one. When the committee member telephoned me about their recommendations, he reminded me that there is no statute of limitations on matters like this. If I choose at any time in the future, I could make a stronger complaint which would involve legal consequences. I got the impression that all the members of the ethics committee are worried that he will repeat the same thing that he did with me and hurt someone else. He has an extremely good reputation, and also presents himself as a very experienced, trustworthy and empathic therapist- sort of the "last person" one would imagine doing such a thing.
I do remember you, of course, Happy. I read the list of all the inappropriate things your ex-t said to you, and also remember the context- that he had encouraged a very eroticized transference which spilled over into other contexts, like the gym. I always thought that he took advantage of the fact that you were very open and vulnerable then to try and fulfill sexual needs of his own. I'm one hundred percent behind you in your efforts to obtain some kind of legal sanction for what happened. Really, he sounds like he doesn't have a clue and needs some basic education and therapy himself!
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