Posted by wittgensteinz on January 27, 2009, at 3:26:55
In reply to Re: Canceling » Suedehead, posted by Dinah on January 26, 2009, at 21:57:49
Suedehead,
Yes, I think once I did something like this and he phoned and arranged I see him later the same day. Actually come to think of it, perhaps twice - although the second time was not something of anger but rather I felt too depressed and anxious to leave the house and again I did see him that day or the next.
From my experience this kind of thing doesn't help - if anything it makes it worse. It will probably cause you more harm and pain that it will your T. Your T might worry and maybe it will have the effect you want it to but the likelihood is that it will cause more harm than good and then another session is taken up in piecing things back together again. The best thing is to go and tell him how he made you feel - tell him you didn't want to come, your desire was to act out in this way. Surely this will have the same effect yet without the same disruption.
I also once walked out of a session. I felt rotten and I'd said several times "I just don't feel the point of being here - it's not going anywhere today". I got up and walked to the door and then just kept walking. I surprised myself. The next time I came as usual and I don't think we ever really talked about it. Grrr yesterday's session was like that but I didn't leave half way through! I did tell him I wished I was one of the birds outside and he said "because you want to fly away". I should say that in the 150 times I have seen him (have lost count) I've only ever done something like this on 3 occasions and each time I'm sure it hurt me more and had little impact on him. We have one T, they have many patients.
Why not phone or e-mail him? Sorry things are feeling this bad right now.
Witti
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