Posted by LibraryGirl on January 26, 2009, at 7:36:11
In reply to Re: Will I ever stop wanting/needing a 'Mommie?', posted by sharon7 on January 24, 2009, at 17:18:17
lol No Jane Fonda wouldn't be mine. A long time ago, when I was younger, I remember one celebrity was Dierdre (sp?) Hall (Marlena, on Days of Our Lives). It's rare I focus on celebrities, but sometimes if I have no one IRL who I feel that way towards, I'll focus on a celebrity to fill the void I guess. And yes I have fantasies about my various "mothers." In case of a celebrity, she would show up at my door one day telling me I was adopted and she was my real mom and wanted me back and we'd have a tearful reunion with lots of hugs. Sheesh. My former T was one who I never thought would affect me that way; she didn't fall into the "mold." She was older than the usual mother-figures I focus on, she was in a wheelchair (not that in itself meant anything was "wrong" with her, but it was different), she was attractive but not overly so, and I even remember thinking when I met her, "good, this won't happen with her." but it did, b/c she ended up mothering me and forcing her caring on me, and so it just grew into those feelings for her. Anyway, maybe it's good we can laugh about it a bit. :/
> Thanks LG.. what a releif it is to me to know there are other people that do exactly the same things and think the way i do about this. i have always had the needing a mother problem for as far back as i can remember, too. i would never know when a woman would become like a mother figure to me. sometimes it ended up being someone who i never would have thought would have affected me that way. it just kinda of happened. for me, like you it was teachers, my friends parents maybe, the doctor, and yes, celebrities. i dont know about you but i think one way i used to cope with how neglected i was as a child was to engage (in my mind) in these well thought out fantasy scenarios with my 'mother at the moment' person. it'd probably be kind of funny to share who they were, i mean like if it was a celebrity. For example, for a while mine was Jane Fonda. ha, ha. and to you, you're probably like "Eww! She wouldn't be mine!" and i couldn't even tell you why! lol. i am not kidding when i say i could 'escape' for a couple hours doing that. pretty scary, huh? and my parents neither knew this was going on, nor did they care. Thanks for your support. - Sharon
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