Posted by cal on December 18, 2008, at 6:17:37
In reply to Re: Is therapy just blowing smoke up our a*s?, posted by Cecilia on December 18, 2008, at 3:54:06
Great question!!!
Yes I have these feelings from time to time...yes I think the pain is coming from a deep wound and yes T would be supportive to whom ever she was seeing, but in the big scheme of things, we as humanbeings do better with support, no matter what our "crime" don't you think??? that doesn't mean T is supporting actions, she is supporting the human soul...she sees why we do the things we did and is trying to recreat all that was missing in everyones lifes...now the other stuff, the me and T bit, well thats unique...it doesn't matter if everyone in the whole wide world is lining up outside to see her, the "me and her" bit will be private and will be ours...just like with our children...I love all my kids but the relationship between me and them on a one too one level is unique...I know one of my kids doesn't like gravy on her food so as I prepare dinner she is in my mind in that way and another one doesn't like brussel sprouts so she is held in my mind with that thought...we are all unique when held in the mind off someone.....because I was never seen for who I am growing up..its taken a long time to reach this understanding, to me growing up I was just a blob, and I was never able to experience the pain of knowing that back then..I had to pretend myself into relationships, now with T the memory of how awful that was comes back strong and the fear is that it will happen again..but it hasn't...with T I have become me...look, Im a boy just like all the other little boys, I can walk, I have arms I am no longer wooden...
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